Day 2 of Love & Respect Challenge

Communication is the key in every marriage.

Today we read chapter 2 of Love & Respect and we learned that miscommunication can cause a lot of arguments that really don't have to happen. When the wife is feeling unloved she lashes out and the husband feels disrespected so he reacts and then walks away feeling worthless. After many years of marriage a lot of people never realize the issue that is causing the continuing silly disagreements and keeps the crazy cycle going, instead of identifying them and then proceeding to work them out, they just give up or keep up the cycle. The bible tells us to work it out and for the husband to love his unloving wife and the wife to respect her unrespecting husband. We don't always feel that the other is worthy of their need but we must do it anyways. Their tank needs filling because when it runs empty or is cut off then there is conflict that didn't have to be.

We have to decode our messages that we send one another to clearly understand what each other means by our actions or words. In the chapter today it talks about the wife saying she has nothing to wear when she really means she has nothing new to wear and then the husband says he has nothing to wear when really he means he has nothing clean to wear. Women and men or so different which causes a lot of our small silly fights that really don't have to escalate into a huge knock out fight. God made us different, lets embrace it and learn to understand each other.

Your turn to speak up!

What did you learn today? Did God reveal to you anything that you need to work on to be a better understanding spouse? What's on your heart today?

Be Blessed,

Regina Cozad

Day 1 of Love & Respect Challenge

First I want to wish all of my mothers out there a Happy Late Mother's Day, I had all intentions of writing a post yesterday but this little baby of mine just had me sick and couldn't do much yesterday.



My hubby cooked for our family yesterday and we had a lazy relaxing day and great church. Over all it was a great Mother's Day, I hope you all enjoyed yours.

Today started our new challenge, we are reading a chapter a day til we finish and each day we will come here and reflect on what we read and how we can apply it to our marriage. You can read more about the challenge here, this challenge is to show wives how to respect their husbands and husbands to love their wives.

We get on a "Crazy Cycle" and don't even realize it and then we must learn how to get off and this book will tell us. The Crazy Cycle is this "Without Love She reacts and Without Respect He reacts" sounds familiar doesn't it? This book is based on biblical facts and today we read Chapter 1 and we learned how sometimes we don't realize that our lashing out in hopes of fixing our spouse really just makes them feel disrepected and that sometimes wet towels and peppered eggs can cause a big arguement and leave the wife feeling unloved and the husband disrespected. Today I want to learn to not try and fix my spouse but to understand how his heart works and learn to respect him even when I am feeling unloved. Simply learning to communicate is something that can help a whole lot of arguements and tomorrow we will read more about that.

What did you learn today while reading Chapter 1? What are somethings that you will be working on today? Are you enjoying this challenge so far? Tweet about it with the hashtag #GodlywifeyChallenge


Be Blessed,


Regina Cozad