Day 6 of Love&Respect Challenge

I want to encourage each and every one of you to live out your marriage and your life according to God's word and you will see a major change that you will be happy with. Alot of people don't realize that our lives are not our own and when we let God take the driver seat, we will be amazed at how He can turn things around we never thought could be fixed.

In this chapter, we seen wives and husbands that because they lived according to scripture, God changed their marriages and restored what they thought was lost. Loving when the wife is unloveable and respecting when the husband is unworthy to be respected, Scripture says to Respect when they don't seem to deserve it and it says to love even when they are unloveable. So many people don't get this and don't understand why they can't get off the crazy cycle, we must learn to talk about what upsets us and move on from it, don't make it a heated argument but communicate the issue and fix it.

What did you learn today? What are some things that God is showing you that you need to work on?


Be Blessed,


Regina Cozad

Day 5 of Love&Respect Challenge

Today I have a question for all the wives out there, Are you trying to decode the messages that your husband is sending you? Do you understand that he needs respect just as much as we need love? Are you being the mature adult and making the first move to stop the crazy cycle and have a better marriage?

Today's chapter was on decoding the messages we are receiving and making the first move to just stop the crazy cycle and be better no matter how unloving or disrespectful the other spouse is. This book is such an eye opener and I pray no one has to be like the man who had to go to jail to decode the messages his wife was screaming out to him, saying just love me, show me you care, instead of always trying to be right and prove your point. So many times instead of showing our hearts, we try to show our knowledge and that we are right no matter the cost and hurt we cause our spouse.

Are you learning to decode the messages? Are you making changes? Share your experience below, I'd love to hear from you. I pray you all have better marriages from your efforts to change your marriage for the better.


Be Blessed,


Regina Cozad

Monday

Monday I will continue the challenge. Morning sickness has taken over today and its rough but ill be back Monday if not sooner.  In the mean time think of what we've already learned and pray for the Lord's guidance. God bless you all.

Be blessed,

Regina Cozad

Day 4 of Love&Respect Challenge

Today we read in Chapter 4 of Love & Respect and it stresses that men need that unconditional respect from us because when he feels disrespected, he will act unloving and stone wall because he feels he isn't appreciated. Dr. Emerson tried to explain to us how they see arguements differently than us and they deal with things differently from us.

We have to learn to speak the respect language, if we are going to get anywhere when trying to talk to our spouse and solve an issue that has been there bothering us. It's time to get off the Crazy cycle and learn to love and respect each other no matter the situations that life throws at us! We need to quit complaining and critizing them and learn to praise them for the things they do. :) I can't wait til tomorrow to see what else Dr. Emerson tells us that can help us have a better marriage.

Now it's your turn,

Do you have a praise report of what this challenge is doing for your marriage or for yourself? Do you have any questions or anything you would like to share? I would love to hear from you.

Be Blessed,

Regina Cozad

Day 3 of Love&Respect Challenge

Chapter 3 taught us today that we as wives have to learn to show unconditional respect for our husbands, two words that society feel men don't deserve but the Bible clearly states is mandatory in marriage. This is one subject that if brought up, women get defense and say they don't deserve my respect because they don't show me love, but the Bible says to show them unconditional respect regardless because by our actions and words they can be won to the Lord.

1. Are you a respecting wife?
2. Are your actions and words showing Christ?
3. When things aren't going the way you think they should do you lash out? or do you show the love of Christ?

These are just a few things we need to think about from day to day. I was once wrote on here via comment on a previous post about respecting our husbands by a man that called me a 50s wife, little does he know that I was born in 1991! I was brought up in a church and that taught me what the Bible says, the scripture was instilled in me as a child and shown to me by a Proverbs 31 momma! I don't have it all together and I do make mistakes (no one is perfect), but I live the scripture and I won't apologize for it. I want to be the wife that the Lord intended for me to be and I want to help others to be the wife that the Lord intended for them to be, that is why I have this blog today.

My prayer today is that the Lord will show us as wives, how we can show our husbands unconditional respect daily and how we can be that Proverbs 31 wife that He intended for us to be.

Your turn,

What did you learn today? What are you doing to show your husband unconditional respect?

Be Blessed,


Regina Cozad

 

Day 2 of Love & Respect Challenge

Communication is the key in every marriage.

Today we read chapter 2 of Love & Respect and we learned that miscommunication can cause a lot of arguments that really don't have to happen. When the wife is feeling unloved she lashes out and the husband feels disrespected so he reacts and then walks away feeling worthless. After many years of marriage a lot of people never realize the issue that is causing the continuing silly disagreements and keeps the crazy cycle going, instead of identifying them and then proceeding to work them out, they just give up or keep up the cycle. The bible tells us to work it out and for the husband to love his unloving wife and the wife to respect her unrespecting husband. We don't always feel that the other is worthy of their need but we must do it anyways. Their tank needs filling because when it runs empty or is cut off then there is conflict that didn't have to be.

We have to decode our messages that we send one another to clearly understand what each other means by our actions or words. In the chapter today it talks about the wife saying she has nothing to wear when she really means she has nothing new to wear and then the husband says he has nothing to wear when really he means he has nothing clean to wear. Women and men or so different which causes a lot of our small silly fights that really don't have to escalate into a huge knock out fight. God made us different, lets embrace it and learn to understand each other.

Your turn to speak up!

What did you learn today? Did God reveal to you anything that you need to work on to be a better understanding spouse? What's on your heart today?

Be Blessed,

Regina Cozad

Day 1 of Love & Respect Challenge

First I want to wish all of my mothers out there a Happy Late Mother's Day, I had all intentions of writing a post yesterday but this little baby of mine just had me sick and couldn't do much yesterday.



My hubby cooked for our family yesterday and we had a lazy relaxing day and great church. Over all it was a great Mother's Day, I hope you all enjoyed yours.

Today started our new challenge, we are reading a chapter a day til we finish and each day we will come here and reflect on what we read and how we can apply it to our marriage. You can read more about the challenge here, this challenge is to show wives how to respect their husbands and husbands to love their wives.

We get on a "Crazy Cycle" and don't even realize it and then we must learn how to get off and this book will tell us. The Crazy Cycle is this "Without Love She reacts and Without Respect He reacts" sounds familiar doesn't it? This book is based on biblical facts and today we read Chapter 1 and we learned how sometimes we don't realize that our lashing out in hopes of fixing our spouse really just makes them feel disrepected and that sometimes wet towels and peppered eggs can cause a big arguement and leave the wife feeling unloved and the husband disrespected. Today I want to learn to not try and fix my spouse but to understand how his heart works and learn to respect him even when I am feeling unloved. Simply learning to communicate is something that can help a whole lot of arguements and tomorrow we will read more about that.

What did you learn today while reading Chapter 1? What are somethings that you will be working on today? Are you enjoying this challenge so far? Tweet about it with the hashtag #GodlywifeyChallenge


Be Blessed,


Regina Cozad

Back to Routine

Today I'm getting back into my routine of getting up early and reading God's word, I have been but not like I use to and I see the effects of it. My mornings usually consist of getting up with the hubby and getting him off to work, then prayer for him and our family, and then my Youversion bible plans. Since I found out that I'm expecting again, my morning routine has changed a little, and no I'm not complaining because I know in December it will all be worth it.

Sometimes we just have to kick the devil in the teeth and make time for God, for He cares for us. When things aren't going smoothly and it seems the devil has just got you bound, take time to just pray and let God take over again and put the devil under your feet where he belongs. I pray you all have a splendid day!

What is your morning routine and how is it beneficial to your family and own spiritual needs? What do you do to stay on track?

Be Blessed,

Regina Cozad

So I joined the Hello Mornings challenge and I'm getting back into routine, anyone interested can sign up, registration closes Wednesday.

http://Hellomornings.org/

God blesses us

So you all know about my miscarriage and if you don't you can read more here, it literally tore me down but I kept my faith and stayed strong that God knew exactly what He was doing. I went on, even though a part of me hurt, with my everyday life and the things that never stop. We attended a marriage conference and just enjoyed each other, all the while I felt something was wrong because I never resume "my monthly", I called my doctor frantic to get me in and see what was going on.

In the meantime I found my answer, I took a home test which came out positive, the dr did a test and it was positive, although we weren't sure how far I was, they were sure it was definitely a new baby. Yesterday I found out that in December we will have a little one :) and I just wanted to share this wonderful news with you all. Thanks for the prayers and all the comfort through the hard times, God has truly blessed us with this unexpected miracle! I feel so happy and alive again :) Babies truly do bring Joy!

To every wife who is struggling with infertility, miscarriage, and other issues that may be keeping you from getting the child that your heart is desiring, don't give up! God blesses us when we least expect it. I am praying for those that want children and haven't gotten them, that God will remember you like he did Sarah and many others in the bible.

What is some advice you may have for those struggling right now with infertility? How long did you and your spouse have to wait til you were blessed with little ones?


Be Blessed,


Regina Cozad